Some couples seek therapy as soon as they commit to a long-term relationship. This type of couples counseling builds a solid foundation for their ongoing relationship as they explore potentially divisive issues.
Many couples often don’t seek counseling until they’re mired in ongoing disagreements and on the brink of separating. Others turn to counseling when their conflicts keep building and they can’t find a way to solve the problem on their own.
A few challenges that bring couples in for counseling include:
Though most couples go to counseling together, one person can benefit from therapy even if their partner doesn’t want to participate.
First and foremost, couples therapy gives you a safe, respectful place where you and your partner can share your feelings and explore your relationship. Your therapist helps you identify and navigate the problems causing problems in your relationship.
With your therapist’s guidance, you learn how the problem began and why it escalated. You also learn how each person’s unique values, habits, skills, needs, and past experiences impact the relationship.
Each partner gains insight into their unconscious thinking patterns that influence the way they interact with their partner. Along the way you learn new skills to improve the problem. For example, you may learn to recognize and change negative thoughts, how to express your emotions, or better communication skills.
The therapists at High Desert Psychological Services have extensive training and experience in many types of therapeutic techniques. The one they choose depends on each couple’s interaction and goals.
Some types of counseling are like having a conversation guided by questions from your therapist. Other types follow a more structured format. For example, you may use worksheets so you can record thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that occur between counseling sessions. Then your therapist uses the worksheets to guide your next session.
No matter what approach your therapist uses, couples therapy is problem-oriented. You go to couples therapy because you encountered a specific challenge. That’s the problem your therapy aims to resolve so you and your partner can build a stronger relationship.
If you need couples counseling, call High Desert Psychological Services, or schedule an appointment online today.